tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post448260778373932450..comments2023-10-24T06:12:37.287-07:00Comments on Bellyaching and Benedictions: Just like a real MomPeevemehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15380650452145936082noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-71224195886700127822008-10-13T13:37:00.000-07:002008-10-13T13:37:00.000-07:00Loved this post! I have one VERY similar.http://n...Loved this post! I have one VERY similar.<BR/><BR/>http://noeggsinthisbasket.blogspot.com/2008/08/of-course-its-my-egg.html<BR/><BR/>Now, do I care that these ladies don't cop to using donor eggs? Nope. But I do care that they make stupid remarks like Nicole Kidman and the "fertility lake." Yeah, gee, why didn't I think of that before I decided to pour 18K down the IVF tube already with another projected 35K for my DE cycle?<BR/><BR/>What? I could just take a wonderful vacation down under and swim in a lovely body of water for about 3K instead? Ugh, I'm such a wasteful idiot!<BR/><BR/>That's just precious!<BR/><BR/>And, yes, like you I decided I will not use MY CHILD as the sacrificial lamb to educate a planet of women who absolutely believe that enough IVF dollars gets you a genetic baby. HA! Go tell that to Martha Stewart's daughter Alexis (I don't think money is a barrier for her!).<BR/><BR/>Thanks for joining me in this rant! :)Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18288560043939554132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-23925353355177318242008-10-08T15:25:00.000-07:002008-10-08T15:25:00.000-07:00I think this is SO TRUE. I, personally, was compl...I think this is SO TRUE. I, personally, was completely duped by these stories of women who were getting pregnant at 40. I decided I definitely had time to commit to my career. Imagine my surprise when at 36, I was told I have diminished ovarian reserve - after undergoing 3 failed IVFs. The sad thing is that members of my family still dont 'get it'. My mother points to friends and relatives who have given birth recently in their early 40s and tells me: "dont worry, it'll happen". I am convinced that at least some (if not all) of these women have used donor eggs, although they dont tell. Not that I necessarily blame them, but... Somehow this all needs to be communicated to the younger generation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-52803433246640773572008-10-04T15:37:00.000-07:002008-10-04T15:37:00.000-07:00So true. I had no idea that it was harder to get p...So true. I had no idea that it was harder to get pregnant after 35 until I tried. I thought it just meant the risk of Down Syndrome and other chromosonal defects were higher. I knew there were less eggs, but I didn't know that it affected egg quality. Boy do you learn a lot about your body while going through FT. I, too, wish celebrities would fess up. What a perfect opportunity to bring fertility issues to light!!KandiBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04687363853884037484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-52294074264788480392008-10-03T18:24:00.000-07:002008-10-03T18:24:00.000-07:00Thanks for commenting on my blog! I know how you ...Thanks for commenting on my blog! I know how you feel. I share many of your same feelings and fears.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09377141517307237964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-44796090224565916082008-10-02T12:55:00.000-07:002008-10-02T12:55:00.000-07:00I've thought about this aspect a lot when we began...I've thought about this aspect a lot when we began thinking about DE...I came to no resolution about it. I'm proud of the struggles I have endured, but there is a fine line between telling about it to educate and betraying your child's rights. We still are considering it once we get some finances straight, but right now, I guess I'm glad I don't have to make this decision because wow, it's hard! Great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-48974854928426267172008-10-01T17:17:00.000-07:002008-10-01T17:17:00.000-07:00Now that I've ended my journey, I wish I would hav...Now that I've ended my journey, I wish I would have told a lot fewer people. When people ask me how I feel about the whole thing, I just tell them to read my blog. Privacy is very healthy. Not only for those babies you dream of protecting, but also for yourself. <BR/>PS -- (Thank you for the kind words of support.)Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17261296735391802365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-40711194254960214482008-09-30T13:53:00.000-07:002008-09-30T13:53:00.000-07:00I completely agree that you have to protect your f...I completely agree that you have to protect your family. You do whatcha gotta do.Chellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02462827829231769285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-4064927894713466852008-09-30T11:44:00.000-07:002008-09-30T11:44:00.000-07:00I've written about this a lot in the past. I have ...I've written about this a lot in the past. I have no respect, ZERO, for those Hollywood types who shill their kids out on the covers of magazines and then say they had no help. Don't freakin' lie to the public.<BR/><BR/>That doesn't mean you have to be fully out, though. Look at Marcia Cross. What a classy lady! Of course she worked as a counselor and provided therapy to many infertiles so she "gets it". She has never lied. She has said it wasn't easy, she was really lucky, it's hard for women over 40, etc. Yet she's maintained her children's privacy. She is most definitely their "real" mom.<BR/><BR/>Elizabeth Edwards did much the same thing. Holly Hunter keeps everything about her kids private. <BR/><BR/>There is a big difference in my book between privacy and secrecy. It will be your child's story so you should honor that. It's up to them who, when and how they tell. That's just about privacy.<BR/><BR/>But that doesn't mean you lie about getting help (I'm looking at you Nicole, Julia, Angela, JLo and Rebecca). Shame on those liars.<BR/><BR/>You don't have to say you use donor eggs to help people understand infertility. You just have to say "it can be really hard to build a family and there are lots of way to build a family including ivf, surrogacy, donor gametes, adoption". I've always thought if someone asks straight out, it's best to just say "why does that matter?" or "why would you ask such a question?" then you can either put them in their place or share information/resources/etc if they're "one of us".milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09710325487325258355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-57707985149558392752008-09-30T11:33:00.000-07:002008-09-30T11:33:00.000-07:00While surfing adoption blogs yesterday, I came acr...While surfing adoption blogs yesterday, I came across a a post that spoke about the difference between secrecy (unhealthy and fear-based) and privacy (healthy and love-based).<BR/><BR/>It seems you know the difference, too.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-7392913664012743482008-09-30T06:19:00.000-07:002008-09-30T06:19:00.000-07:00I just love how Nicole Kidman claims magicical fer...I just love how Nicole Kidman claims magicical fertile water got her knocked up! Uh huh... and suddenly, dozens of middle-aged celebrities have gotten pregnant with boy/girl twins "naturally". Sure, I believe it. Do they really think that people buy that crap? Do they really think people will look at them any differently if they HAD to resort to fertility treatments? The problem with celebrities is that most of them abuse fertility treatments so that they can plan their pregnancies around their supid movie careers. God forbid they get pregnant naturally while filming another crapa$$ movie. <BR/><BR/>I have a lot of respect for Brooke Shields. At least she talked about her issues. At least she was honest. Her book was pretty good. It talks about her depression, but also her struggles with infertility too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5620726426762951650.post-6240181084923232962008-09-29T18:17:00.000-07:002008-09-29T18:17:00.000-07:00It is so true and so hartd. I actually spent some ...It is so true and so hartd. I actually spent some time thinking about just this. I hate how in Hollywood people aren't forthcoming but I will never forget when they were discussing someone's passing last year, some star, a male. The news kept saying he left behind his "adopted" son so and so. It miffed me so much. The man was in his 80's or 90's when he passed and his son was older as well, like late 50's I think, yet they had to label him adopted as if that were somehow less his son. It infuriated me.<BR/><BR/>So I get stars not sharing. Can you imagine every interview stating her children through egg donor being stated every time, or even worse??<BR/><BR/>But at the same time it is totally giving a false sense of fertility.<BR/><BR/>Go mama bear go!!!bleuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00467701792949981337noreply@blogger.com